50 Shades of Grey

You don't need to read this if you are interested......

I am not sure I've experienced a movie so polarizing as this movie....almost as much as the difference between Obama lovers and Obama haters.  There are people that are completely crazy for the movie and can't wait to see it.  Then there are those that are so repulsed by the mere thought of the movie.  People have taken to social media and let their distaste for such a "hideous" movie that "objectifies women and shows scenes of rape and violence".  I shake my head. 

While I've never been interested in the BDSM world, I don't feel it is violent and depicts rape in most cases.  It is really about a "deviant" style of sex....a fetish.  It is totally about permission and pleasure.  Never is a woman (or man) submissive subjected to something against their own edge of acceptance.  And there is always "stop" words should things go too far for one partner.  Is it a loving and gentle way of sex?  No.  But people who practice that form of sexual pleasure, it really is their business.  If you don't like it, don't do it.  If you do like it, well then....enjoy.  I accept either point of view.

To me, 50 Shades of Grey, is a movie about a guy that has been hurt and disappointed by women and have built a hard "shell" that became a BDSM fetish.  Ana is a innocent girl that is anxious to explore but won't allow Christian to control her beyond her acceptable level.  And what I really see about it is she is trying to understand his complicated way and soften it.  He might be in control in the "red room" but she is very much in control of his emotions and succeeds in helping him trust women and see that there is a benefit to romance in a relationship.  If he wants Ana in his life, he is going to have to give up control to some degree.  If Ana wants Christian in your life, she is going to have to give up control to some degree too.

Seems to me, the people that have such a problem with the movie haven't read the books and are making assumptions about the context of the movie (and the books).  They tend to be conservative.  This is fine to me but there is no sense making it something it is not.  It is a movie people.  The good news is you don't have to see it if you find it repulsive.  For me, I thought the books were kind of fun.  Reading them was an escape for me into a world I don't know too much about.  Yes they are a little spicy.   Yes they are meant to make you explore your "fetish" side and test your own personal limits.  It is meant to give you a peek into the fetish world.

If you want my opinion about the movie, I am very glad they picked relatively new actors to play the main characters. It wasn't as "detailed" as the book but it was still fun to watch.  I found the characters portrayal to be believable.  I did enjoy the movie.  I found the fun banter and power struggle between Christian and Ana to be playful and interesting.  But by all means, if you are offended by this sort of idea, don't go see it.  It is okay to say you are not interested in seeing the movie or reading the book without making it something it is not.  Fear and judgment will never set you free.